21-Day Challenge – Day 18 – Enjoying solitude

“I have never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude.”

Henry David Thoreau, Walden


The imaginer part of us has a psychological need of solitude. For many people, it’s hard to imagine as they find it difficult to enjoy solitude.  Jean-Paul Sartre said: ““If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company.” Loneliness and solitude are 2 very different states:

  • Loneliness is a negative state which drains your energy and can lead you into distress and depression
  • Solitude is a positive state which gives you energy and a feeling of renewal.

Let us explore the blissful state of solitude and gain some new perspectives:

Solitude as a psychological need is a positive state of being alone, without feeling lonely. It is a rich inner state of being in relationship with oneself. A state where you are your own best company and more than sufficient. Feel the peacefulness and the richness in the state of solitude. Experience how renewing and energizing solitude can be.

We all have a need for solitude and the amount each of us needs to renew and recharge is different. This depends on where our imaginer is in our personality architecture and how much energy we have available.

Learning to enjoy solitude can be a process that

  • teaches you to truly value your own company and become your own best friend
  • leads you into deeper self-awareness
  • opens up space for reflection and inner work
  • helps you to gain new perspectives on topics
  • allows you to relax in deep reading a book
  • helps you get access to your creativity and your imagination
  • gives you deeper insights in situation

To lead a balanced life, we need to hold both needs of being in relationship with others and being in relationship with ourself.  The movement of engaging with others and then withdrawing and needing some space alone is natural and needed for healthy relationships. Like low-tide and high-tide in perfect harmony.

  • Can you enjoy solitude?
  • What opens up for you when you immerse yourself in solitude?

Find some time to withdraw over the weekend and immerse yourself in solitude!

Enjoy deeply!


Related blogs to the psychological need of solitude:

Nicole Heimann is an experienced and passionate Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC), Certified Neuro-Transformation Coach (CNTC), Certified Process Communication Model Coach,  specialized in Conscious Leadership and Impactful Communication. Contact me at nicole.heimann@5cconcept.com

– Here’s the link to the introduction post of the 21-day challenge.

– Please note that the concept of psychological needs related to the PCM personality types is based on solid research and scientifically validated work done by Dr. Taibi Kahler. All content related to this are the proprietary rights of Taibi Kahler Associates, Inc. Nicole is a licensed and certified independent distributor of the Process Communication Model and all materials related thereto.

Mark your calendars!  Our next open PCM Seminar is scheduled for October 29-31, 2014.



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